Healthcare in Bali: A local option for expats and Indonesians

One of the main concerns for foreigners planning on moving to a new country is healthcare. For seniors, it’s often vitally important due to health that is declining or because the potential resident is wisely looking ahead to the future. Health issues are also of primary concern for families with children. Most of the younger folks that contact me about moving to Bali generally don’t mention health as an area of immediate concern. A few years ago, I helped an American couple in their move to Bali; they lasted less than a year because they chose Ubud as the place where they wanted to live, and when one of them had several severe health problems requiring medivac, they decided to return back to the States.

Over the years, I’ve been covered by health insurance at the school where I taught so the cost of healthcare wasn’t an issue for me; now that I am retired and have no insurance, cost is certainly a concern when I think about healthcare for myself and my family. Fortunately the cost of adequate healthcare here is still reasonable so we’ve weathered out broken arms, childbirths, dengue fever, typhoid and more. And while many expats here have some form of insurance, I know a number of others who don’t and who haven’t been as lucky as we have with their healthcare issues.

When I was describing my recent visit to two local neurologists, the first thing my wife – an ardent Indonesian nationalist – asked was if they had been trained in the United States. No, I answered. Europe? Again no? Singapore? No, no, no. Why the sudden interest in where my doctors were trained? It has something to do with the well-known fact that seats in medical schools in Indonesia are available for sale. Not all medical students buy their way into school, but some do and for Indonesians whose interest in health and illness sometimes borders on the obsessional, information about the quality of local doctors is actively sought and shared. So, quality medical services and healthcare are important topics for both expats and locals.

20130513_120730Over the past twenty-four years, I’ve had several operations here in Bali, as well as being hospitalized for dengue fever and typhoid. I’ve been in hospitals frequented mostly by locals as well as a hospital that was popular a few years ago with expats and tourists. Some recent health issues related to possible brain malfunctions have required that I go through some extensive testing including an MRI, an EEG, blood work and cognitive testing. My Balinese doctor told me to get down to Denpasar for these tests as they are not available in Singaraja. So the question of where to go came up. Many expats and wealthy Indonesians travel to Singapore, Malaysia or Thailand for treatment. I’ve done that in the past and have had mixed results. This time I was looking for good treatment at a reasonable price. Part of the problem with going out of the country for medical care is the need for an exit/re-entry permit. Then too there are expenses for airfare, local transportation and accommodations. This is before getting to the costs of examinations, doctor fees, medicines and follow-up care. I decided to look locally for a neurologist and a hospital with the necessary facilities.

Living in Bali today is a completely different experience than it was when I first arrived here decades ago. Websites, blogs and social networks like Twitter and Facebook have created a space for expats, tourists and locals to share experiences, information and resources. I used a few Facebook groups on Bali to discover what hospitals are currently getting good reviews from people living in Bali. After a few hours of comparing information from Westerns and Indonesians, I narrowed my search for neurologists to two hospitals in the south. I eventually chose the relatively new hospital Siloam in Kuta, which opened for business just six months ago. As I was to discover, the patients that I observed throughout the day were a mix of Westerners and upscale Indonesians. For Westerners who are uncomfortable with the idea of being taken care of in an Indonesian hospital, Siloam offers an international experience that I believe most Westerners would be quite comfortable with.

A Day at Siloam Bali
A brother-in-law drove me down to Kuta (leaving at 06:30 in order to arrive at the hospital in time for a 10:00 appointment). We negotiated the heavy southern traffic and made it to the hospital with 30 minutes to spare. Siloam is housed in a new mall on Sunset Road (I was surprised that Sunset Road is the actual name of this street; I always thought that it was a name Westerners gave to the real Indonesian street name). We parked in the back and came in through the Emergency entrance. I was immediately impressed with the cleanliness and orderliness of the hospital: a large registration and cashier desk with a sufficient number of personnel so that we were waited on immediately. I explained that I had an appointment and within minutes was accompanied by a young lady up to the third floor where my neurologist saw patients. The clerk at the registration counter here had my appointment on the computer and within minutes sat down with me to help me fill in the registration form. Shortly after 10:00 I was led by a nurse to the neurologist’s examination room. As my Indonesian was better than her English we conducted the initial interview primarily in Indonesian with English thrown in when necessary. After taking an extensive medical history, she gave me some cognitive tests that I was already familiar with from my research on TIA and Alzheimer’s. She concluded that I had short-term memory problems (I had already come to the same conclusion from my own testing), but that other than that I appeared to be in excellent health for a man of my age. She suggested an MRI (which I expected) as well as an EEG to check for epilepsy. The epilepsy suggestion surprised me as I had epilepsy as a boy but had not mentioned it in the medical history part of the interview. Plus points for her thoroughness. She also ordered blood work as she wanted to make sure that I had no liver issues that would become relevant for any necessary medication.

20130513_170126I was concerned about the costs of the tests and consultation and inquired about the total cost for the day. She wrote down everything that needed to be done, gave it to her nurse who went off to the front desk to find out how much these examinations were going to set me back. In the meantime, she explained in detail just what would happen for the rest of the day. When the nurse returned when, we went over the itemized costs which amounted to approximately $275, which was well within the budget I had made the night before. When I paid the cashier for the day’s program, she charged me an additional $275 dollars and explained that the original estimate was wrong. We discussed this briefly, she showed me a list of prices, and I shrugged it off and paid the new bill thinking that I would discuss the difference later with my neurologist. I set off for the first of my tests – the MRI.

Accompanied downstairs by a nurse, I was seated in the waiting room in the radiology section. A nurse from Radiology arrived quickly and carried out an interview related to having an MRI. She asked me to wait. I ended up waiting about an hour for the MRI due to a backup of patients. The waiting room was sparkling clean with magazines and a television equipped with Indovision and a water cooler. I passed the time scanning the internet on my tablet. A young lady from the cashier’s office came up to explain that I had been overcharged. We went back up to the third floor where everything was straightened out, and I was refunded $275 along with a sweet apology. I’ve never been refunded money by a hospital before, but have been given extra charges at the last minute both in Bali and the U.S. Another big plus for Siloam: efficient and honest.

The MRI technicians explained in detail the process of the scan and efficiently carried it out. I was sent back upstairs to await the results and to prepare for the EEG. My doctor came out and told me to go downstairs and have something to eat as the EEG would take several hours and she wanted me to be comfortable during the procedure. I went down to the mall section just outside the hospital and ate a quick sandwich with an iced tea. While I ate, I compared this experience with three other hospitals that I had been in over the past five years: Bumrungrad in Bangkok, Mount Elizabeth in Singapore, and Kasih Ibu in Denpasar. I found that my experience with Siloam compared favorably with Mount Elizabeth, surpassed Kasih Ibu and offered less extensive coverage than Bumrungrad, but for the price and availability of follow-up care was a more than suitable substitution for Bumrungrad.

After my quick lunch, I returned to the third floor where I began the preparation for the EEG. The nurse worked carefully in marking the spots on my head where she was going to attach the electrodes, all the time explaining what she was doing and checking to make sure that I was comfortable. It has been years since my last EEG so I had forgotten about how boring this test can be. After we finished, I had a final consultation with the neurologist who explained the results of the MRI and what medication she was prescribing and why she was prescribing it. I needed to visit another neurologist to have the results of the EEG read because she wasn’t a specialist in reading EEG results, and my neurologist made a little map for me showing the location of the doctor’s office where she had already made an appointment for me later in the evening.

Armed with the MRI scans and the EEG readout, my brother-in-law and I made our way through the early evening traffic of Kuta and Denpasar to the second neurologist’s office. Far from the sparkling new hospital, her office was similar to most of the doctors’ offices that I’ve visited in Bali – slightly dingy, lacking any wall hangings or medical charts, just a simple plain room. But the doctor was highly professional. We settled quickly on using Indonesian for the interview and examination with the occasional English medical terms thrown in. She read through the EEG printout, looked over the MRI scans, did a brief medical history and then we settled in for a lengthy hour discussion about the results of the tests, what they showed and what they didn’t show. She called my other neurologist and they discussed the results and the prognosis. It was decided not the prescribe the medication for epilepsy at the time because of a lack of evidence that epilepsy was the problem and instead go with medication for a TIA with a two-week “kontrol” period after which I would return to the hospital for a follow-up visit to decide where to go from there. I was given a lengthy list of things to do and not to do – no motorcycles, no snorkeling, no heavy home repairs, less time on the computer, etc. Both doctors went over everything that had happened during the day in detail and made sure that I knew what I was supposed to do and why. Total cost for the day including the consultation with the second neurologist was approximately $325. So how does the experience rate in terms of the quality of the medical services and the costs?

20130513_170138I was continually looked after throughout the day; there was always someone – a doctor, nurse or clerk – explaining what was happening and why. There were some wait times for the tests and the results, but certainly no longer than I have experienced anywhere else in the world. The hospital facilities were modern, clean and organized with an efficient staff, some of whom spoke English quite well, others who spoke it passably enough for a non-Indonesian speaker to understand what was going on. However, as neither neurologist spoke much English, that would be a problem for many foreigners. This alone would give a foreigner a good reason to make a trip to Bangkok, Malaysia or Singapore for this type of testing. As I’ve been medivaced to Singapore for a TIA four years ago, I felt that the level of care was comparable with what I experienced at Mount Elizabeth with the exception that the doctors and nurses at Siloam spent more time with me discussing what was happening. The neurologists believe in taking a cautious approach to my problem and explained that because four days had gone by since my most recent attack, it was difficult to find the “trigger.” Medication and lifestyle changes and adaptions that were prescribed were similar to those given four years ago by the doctors in Singapore and Sumbawa. As always, I checked the medications online and found that they are commonly used for situations like mine.

That being said, If I wasn’t concerned about the necessity of follow-up care, I’d probably go through the hassle of leaving the country and flying to Bangkok in order to access the resources of a major international hospital like Bumrungrad that has more neurological specialists. But because of the possibility of needing follow-up examinations and care, I’ve found that Siloam is an excellent local option. My how things have changed over the past several decades, and, at least as far as healthcare is concerned, changed for the better.

Books in Bali: Libraries, Bookstores and Technology

Books have been one of the major loves of my life. I love holding them, turning the pages, looking at them sitting in a bookcase, and, of course, I especially love entering into the new worlds that are impatiently waiting inside for me to discover.

As a child, I was a regular in the local library doing research for school projects, as well as just searching for books to read for pleasure. Once I entered high school, I started traveling to downtown Chicago to visit the Chicago Public Library, which felt like I was entering a foreign country. I could spend hours just scouring the card catalogs making notes on titles that sounded interesting or exotic. Many years later when I was a graduate students at UC Berkeley, I wound up working as a library assistant in the South/Southeast Asia Library Service on the third floor of 800px-UCB-University-LibraryDoe Memorial Library. Because I would work alone on Sundays, I had a key to SSEAL and once inside, I could access the stacks. I often showed up for work as soon as the door to the main library was opened for employees, and after setting SSEAL up for the day, I would wander through the stacks perusing the titles looking for old books in the social sciences. For a book lover like myself, working in the library was a dream.

I started actively collecting books by the time that I was ten and by the time that I left home at seventeen, I had a small library. I read a mix of history, sports, mysteries and by the age of fifteen, I had added philosophy to my interests. Over the years, I built up a sizable library in Chicago and moved some of it out to Berkeley when I moved there. During my ten years in Berkeley, I built up another relatively large library that I put in storage when I moved to Indonesia. Most of those books were eventually given away, and I built another library in my house in Bali. Purchasing good books here was quite difficult when I first arrived in 1989, but there are now some good bookstores in the main tourist areas of Kuta and Ubud. A lot of my books were purchased in Lahore and Bangkok during my years working at Lahore American School. Ferozsons in Lahore and Asia Books in Bangkok were two of my favorite places to spend hours looking for books.

My favorite bookstore in Bali is Ganesha in Ubud. It’s not very large, but it’s packed with books. During my recent visit to Ubud, I discovered that they have an amazing collection of used books that for some reason or other I never noticed. I spent a wonderful hour searching through all the ganesha-ubud1used books and eventually picked out four books even though I have twenty books sitting on my desk back in Singaraja waiting to be read. First, I discovered John Kerr’s intricately detailed history of the relationships between Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung and Sabina Spielrein – A Dangerous Method. With just a bit more searching, I found the biography, Edgar Allan Poe by Kenneth Silverman; William S. Burroughs’ novel Naked Lunch; and Leslie Wines’ little book, Rumi: A Spiritual Biography. Ubud has a number of other interesting bookstores as well, and I’m fond of spending a few mornings wandering the streets of Ubud in search of some hidden treasures.

As much as I love books – that is the old fashioned paper books – I’ve started collecting digital editions of a wide variety of books – novels, histories, philosophy, textbooks, memoirs, biographies, DIY manuals and foreign language dictionaries. There is so much available in digital formats that a few months ago I purchased a Samsung Galaxy 7 inch tablet. I was doubtful that I would enjoy reading on a tablet, but because of nagging pain from two botched operations, I can only sit at a desk for an hour or so. So, initially I went with a tablet so that I could do the background reading for some of the online university courses that I take. I picked the Samsung because of its price and size; I can slip it into most of the my pants’ pockets so I can easily carry it around, the size also approximates that of a smaller paper book, and the text can be made larger, which is perfect for nighttime reading. I was showing a friend my tablet recently, and he expressed his doubts about reading from a tablet, but when I explained the advantages of a tablet noted above plus the ability to hold several hundred books, he admitted that it might make sense for him to look into expanding his reading into the realm of the digital world.

So, digital or traditional books, online or brick-and-mortar bookstores, the worlds found inside of books have become easily accessible for residents of this little tropical island.

Singaraja’s 409th Anniversary and a Few Thoughts About Life in Bali

Last week was the 409th anniversary of the founding of the city of Singaraja in north Bali. I’m not sure how the city goes about publicizing their celebration plans each year. A few years ago they had a great parade through the city, and I only found out about it at the last minute, and that was purely by accident. This year was similar in that I found out about the event only because I happened to notice a sign announcing a traditional dance competition while I was passing through the old harbor on my way home from the building supplies store. But, I did get the information in time to attend the festivities.

Bali is divided into 8 regencies approximating the pre-colonial kingdoms. Each regency is divided into districts (kecamatan) and then further into sub-districts (keluruhan/desa). This year each of the nine districts of the regency of Buleleng was represented by a traditional dance group. The winner goes on to the capital of Denpasar for the island-wide competition.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAA few hundred people were gathered around the performing area trying to find a place to sit or stand out of the intense rays of the afternoon sun. Vendors weaved through the crowd selling balloons, small cheap toys, drinks and snacks. A few dignitaries sat on folding chairs under a canopy. The parking area was filled with motorbikes, small vans and the occasional new sedan. I arrive as the dance group from Sukasada comes on stage. Friends and family of the group give them a welcoming cheer. The drummers signal the start of the dance and the crowd adds some clapping and cheers at a particularly fancy set of moves. Each performance is less than ten minutes; however, it seems shorter than that once you get immersed in the intricacies of the music and dance.

I hold my small Olympus above the head of a young dancer standing in front of me who was quietly commenting on the performances now that her turn was completed. Glancing around, I noticed that there were no tourists in the audience; an unfortunate situation as the groups performed with skill and grace. As I finished filming the group from Tejakula, a young Balinese male approached me and started a conversation. It was clear from the flow of the conversation that he was looking to invite me to his village for a Barong dance later in the week. However, as often happens in the tourist areas of Bali, once he found out that I speak Indonesian, live here with an Indonesian spouse and a bunch of kids and used to have a house in his village before he was born, he lost interest in me and wandered off. Well whatever, as my students used to say when I did something to perplex them. I had a good time, saw some lovely dance performances and got out of the house (and out of my head for a little while).

Back home while downloading the photos and videos of the performances, my mind kept wandering back to that conversation at the dance competition and a few conversations that I had in Ubud recently with a close American friend and a number of my Balinese acquaintances there. They touch on some of the issues that have been actively (and sometimes frantically) discussed on various expat forums and Facebook pages: how foreigners get along here, who we (foreigners) are, how the nature of foreigners has changed over the years, how the island has changed, how all of us living in Bali can get past the “us” versus “them” mentality, and where Bali is going over the next few years. There’s a lot to think about with all these questions, but the situation in Bali might be at the point where these issues need to be explicitly addressed and where foreigners really need to consider the realities of Bali in the 21st century, why they want to come here and how they are going to fit into life on the island. Because…and this is the starting point of why these questions can lead to so much anguish, anger and controversy…it’s really us that need to adapt to the Balinese and not the other way around.

So over the next few posts, I’ll be addressing these issues. My opinions are informed from several decades of living here and my training as an anthropologist, but they are still just that, my opinions about where we (residents of Bali) are now and where we might be heading in the future.

And Baby Makes Five

Here in Kampung Bugis, we have entered into a new phase of our lives – working grandparents. With Rebecca back in Denpasar at the university along with her husband who is working at the art gallery, we now have a new permanent addition to the household: Baby Zoe. From six members a few years ago, we dropped down to five when Mercedes left Bali to purse a nursing degree in Yogyakarta. Then down to four when Rebecca left last September to pursue a degree in tourism in Denpasar. Now, Su, Sam, Meredith and I have been joined by Zoe. And, as I wrote before, our lives will never be the same.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAIt was only a few days ago that Rebecca left Zoe here while she headed back to school, but already Su and I have started working out how we are going to manage taking care of a baby while juggling our other daily pursuits. For Su, her small shop takes up all of her time in the morning and early afternoon. I generally spend the mornings cleaning, doing small (and a few large) repairs around the house, lifting weights on the roof and third floor balcony, watching the news, setting up whatever writing projects I have going and watching a few lectures for the classes that I’m taking on Coursera. Originally, we planned on me taking Zoe in the mornings, while Su would take Zoe in the afternoons. But, as we discovered on our first day along with Zoe, she often prefers to be held when she’s awake, so my idea of putting her in her crib to watch her rotating musical mobile quickly was shown to be useless in the light of the Zoe reality check.

On our second Zoe day, I discovered that I could do light cleaning with Zoe in one arm and a broom in the other; I could also watch the news and listen to university lectures all while carting Zoe around (the fact is that in Bali babies spend most of their young lives going from one set of arms to another; babies in Indonesia generally get far more body contact with family members and others than do babies in the United States). The weight lifting and other things require two free hands and arms. So, when I can get Zoe to amuse herself, I use the time to get those activities completed; when she is being fussy, I take her downstairs where Su amuses her in the shop while I finish my routines and then Zoe comes back upstairs to me.

We haven’t started Sam and Meredith on babysitting duties yet, Zoe still has that new look and feel to her and we’re waiting until they get to feel comfortable about handling her. As is usual with all babies, everyone in the neighborhood wants a chance to hold Zoe and fuss over her. As with my children, I have to take a step back and be slightly less protective of Zoe in order to allow her to have a normal Indonesian upbringing. On the other hand, with much more time on my hands than when I was something of a workaholic during my children’s childhood, I want Zoe to be a natural bilingual child in addition to living organically in the two cultural worlds of her heritage – Indonesian and American. Of course, as with all things in Indonesia, the best laid plans…

Birth and Death Among Muslims in North Bali

Life in my household has been intense, to say the least, over the past several weeks. Looking at it as dispassionately as possible, we lost two family members as we gained a new one. The cycles of life have all been felt here as my wife’s eldest brother and youngest sister both passed away within three weeks of each other; my brother-in-law’s death was not too much of a surprise as he’d been in and out of hospitals over the past few years, but my sister-in-law’s death shocked all of us. And in between these two times of sorrow for the family was the birth of Zoe, our newest member and my youngest granddaughter. Birth and death. The two major events in the life cycle and the associated practices and beliefs have been much on my mind recently.

In a country such as Indonesia where religion plays such a large role in most families regardless of their particular religious affiliation, these two major life events, birth and death, are surrounded by a series of traditional practices and beliefs. For Muslims, the correct forms for these are detailed in the Qur’an and the various hadiths (acts or sayings attributed to the Prophet Muhammad). However, in reality, these practices and beliefs vary according to local customs. Because Islam in Indonesia has been influenced by a variety of factors (including Buddhism, Hinduism and ancient beliefs that predate all of these religions) life and death customs here are somewhat different than found in the Middle East, especially Saudi Arabia.

Bali has changed in many ways since I first moved here 24 years ago. Medical practices are one of the many things that have changed. When my first daughter was born here in Singaraja almost 22 years ago, most women had children in what is now commonly called using English – “natural.” Since then C-sections have become an option, as well as some interesting variations on the “natural” method, water birth, lotus birth and hypno birth. When my granddaughter was born two weeks ago, the plan was to go with the water birth method, but when it came down to actually doing it, Rebecca opted to tough it out with the “natural” way. So birthing options have expanded, but many women still use the cheapest method of going to a midwife, and there are many midwives on the island. Interestingly enough, they can open their own practices, while nurses cannot (so says my daughter who is studying to be a nurse and would love the option of having her own practice).

At least in the kampungs, many of the traditional practices of life after birth still carry on. One of the more interesting ones for foreigners is the disposal of the placenta. Many Muslims request the placenta, take it home in a jar, and then it is either buried or thrown into the sea. There is nothing in the Qur’an that mentions what to do with the placenta. However, the placenta is generally considered to be part of the baby’s body and thus can be buried. The American anthropologist, Clifford Geertz, wrote about the Javanese practices regarding the placenta over 50 years ago, and practices here are quite similar. A local belief is that if the placenta is buried, the child will stay at home, and if the placenta is thrown in the sea, the child will be a wanderer. This is one of those customs here that puzzled me at first, but has its own internal logic once it’s fit in to the overall cultural puzzle of Muslim practices in Bali.

Generally a baby is not taken out of the house for the first forty days after birth because of a variety of factors that include inclement weather, restrictions on the mother leaving the house for health, safety and beauty reasons (a practice also found among Northern Indians, Malaysians and Chinese) and leaks (pronounced lay-ak or le-ak). Leaks are generally human females (although there is a male type of leak) who practice cannibalism and black magic and who suck the blood of newborn infants. (There’s more about leaks but for the purposes of this post, the blood-sucking of infants is considered sufficient reason to keep newborns indoors.)

After 40 days, the leaks are no longer interested in babies, so they can be taken out of the house. When my first daughter was born, I had her out on walks with me after a week, and I shocked everyone – Hindu, Christian, Muslim and Buddhist – by risking my daughter’s life in such an irresponsible manner. And there are assorted other ghosts and supernatural creatures that need to be avoided, so it’s considered best to keep the child inside. However, as I have discovered recently, some of the more “modern” community members see nothing wrong with a newborn being taken out of the house. Still, they are in a minority. When I took my granddaughter out today for her first walk, that event was the talk of the neighborhood for the morning.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAUnlike birth, death practices for Muslims (nor for Hindus) haven’t changed since I’ve been living here. For Muslims it is common to bury the dead as soon as possible after death. A person who dies in the afternoon is generally buried the next morning or afternoon at the latest. In our kampung the normal burial times are around 10 in the morning and four in the afternoon. The body is washed and wrapped in a white cloth at home, then taken to the mosque where family and friends sit and pray. As this was the first time that I attended a body in the mosque, I was surprised that the praying was different from usual. As we finished, the body was whisked out of the mosque on the shoulders of six men. A large crowed of neighbors followed on foot and motorbike.

At the cemetery (Hindus, Muslims, Christians and Buddhists have their own in Singaraja) the body is placed inside the grave. The body is turned on its right side and a board is placed over it at a 45 degree angle so that dirt is not placed directly on top of the body. Family and friends begin to fill the grave with dirt while a few men, including in this situation the husband, tamp the dirt down. The scene is a bit frantic as men switch off using shovels and spades to fill the grave. Once the grave is filled, a small trough is built on top of the mound of dirt, a jar filled with water and flowers is emptied into the trough. The family throws flowers on the grave (several Islamic websites note that this is not acceptable practice for Muslims)). Then the family and friends pray over the body for the forgiveness of the deceased, and finally everyone returns home.

A series of evening prayers during the period of mourning begins that lasts for seven days. Our house was filled with female relatives and neighbors cooking food for visitors; this lasted for seven days. This seven day period, while found in many places around the world, is not commonly accepted as a proper practice for Muslims. Mourning according to Islamic rules should only be for three days.

Once the deceased are buried, they immediately become something of a problem, even while prayers and feasts are being held in their remembrance. Belief in ghosts is common among religions in Indonesia including Islam even though according to most Islamic sources, ghosts do not exist. The soul can not come back and wander among the living. However, in Kampung Bugis souls of the departed are among us for 40 days after their death. It’s common in this kampung for people to see the ghosts of the recently departed perched at some favorite spot late in the evening or wandering from place to place in the neighborhood. A variety of common household items can be used to make sure that these wandering ghosts don’t disturb the living: among the most common are garlic, the traditional brooms used to clean households and safety pins. Why these? I still haven’t been able to figure that out yet. And, some of the older generation have conversations with the spirits of the departed asking them not to bother the living and assuring them that they are being remembered and that the proper rituals are being carried out. How do the youth feel about these things. Well, in my experience, they still believe in ghosts and spirits both good and bad. This is Bali after all. Rest in Peace Sumadi and Surya.

Life Won’t Be the Same

Gazing yesterday at my new granddaughter sleeping peacefully in her crib at the maternity clinic, I had another of those hallucinogenic type moments that I’ve been having lately. Flashing back a month ago on a pleasant Sunday afternoon on our balcony with my two oldest daughters – talking about life, plans for the future, funny moments from the past, the quirks of family members, the constantly changing weather common at this time of the year. My oldest daughter on vacation from nursing school and her sister, still in her first year of university pregnant and absentmindedly rubbing her tummy, me in my usual hyperactive behaviors of chain-smoking and fidgeting with the plants and my seashell collection. And another moment of flashback to hanging out on this same balcony watching the two of them, 15 years younger playing with our baby monkey and sneaking into my room to grab some of my chocolate mints. And suddenly back again in Rebecca’s room watching Zoe sleep, my wife chatting with a visitor and Rebecca texting her friends about life as a new mother.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERABack home, making dinner with my son, Sam, I tell him that when Zoe comes home life will never be the same again around the house – new responsibilities for everyone along with the joy of watching a tiny human grow and develop, absorbing influences from everyone around her. I point out why all the stairs have gates on them: we installed them when the kids were small to keep them from climbing the stairs. And now we need to baby-proof the kitchen cabinets to keep Zoe out of the chemicals and keep the young frisky cat that Rebecca and I rescued four months ago out of Zoe’s room since Meong still bites everything and everyone.

As our children get older and strive to become independent, we try to steer a path between keeping them as close as we’d like and giving them all the autonomy that they want. They end up taking the autonomy regardless of what we plan; in a distant past we did the same. We see them less, and they become just one more member of the family; it’s easy to forget how small and helpless they were when they started on their long journey. We still embrace them as our children, but somehow, in front of our parental gaze, they’ve become someone else. Sometimes a very alien someone else as they try out different personalities looking for the one that suits them best. But, we learn new ways of relating, we recognize that they won’t necessarily take the path to adulthood that we’ve planned for them. We accept them as they are, as they’ve become and recognize that they might become someone else someday – that life is more than the change we grew up with, it moves as quickly as the digital data that we send through undersea cables and over the skies. Sometimes just keeping track of who our children are now is such an amazing and daunting job that we forget who they were once when they emerged from the warmth and safety of that dreamlike waterworld within their mother into the bright lights and clashing sounds of the phenomenal world.

Picking Zoe up at the maternity clinic this morning, she blissfully slept through a change of clothes, the last minute checkup by the doctor and the bustle of people rushing in and out of the room gathering medicines, clothes, cameras and the assorted artifacts of her short stay at Permata Bunda. Back home in Kampung Bugis, she woke briefly looked around at two doting grandparents, a somewhat incredulous aunt and a smiling mother and went back to sleep. I remarked to her mother that she should enjoy her now as it won’t be all that long before she is ready to leave the kampung and head out into the world like her mother and aunt before her.

Waiting for Baby

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALife around here these days revolves around waiting for my newest granddaughter. Each morning Rebecca and I go out for an hour walk around the city as suggested by her doctor. The exercise is good for both of us, and the walks give me a chance to get reacquainted with Singaraja after living in Denpasar for several months. The weather is just beginning to clear up after several months of high winds and frequent rains. We still get an hour or two of rain a day, but not for long and not as intense as at the start of the new year.

Rebecca and I wander this way and that. After a week or so of daily walks, we’ve run out of new areas to explore. Rebecca is less interested in the exploration part of our walks than she is in putting in the time and distance; my children find poking into the nooks and crannies of the city far less interesting than I do; as they age, their desire to see new places and meet new people grows. It’s the natural wanderlust of young people eager (sometimes overly so) for adventures far from the sleepy kampung that has been home for a significant part of their lives. I find it rather amusing that my children can’t wait to get off the island, while so many foreigners crowd in here everyday – both tourists and potential residents. My oldest daughter couldn’t wait to move to Java, and Rebecca is happy living in the big city of Denpasar.

So, we do our daily walks; I take photographs and Rebecca patiently and somewhat absentmindedly listens to my running commentary on what the city was like 23 years ago when I first arrived here. But, Baby is the utmost thought for both of us. Due any day now (although babies, of course, have their own schedule and Rebecca arrived close to a month after her official due date), we make short forays into the two largest baby shops in town for diapers, bottles, cribs, strollers, and an assortment of outfits for the first few months. I have a spot reserved in my room at the top of the house for the crib, a place to store the stroller down on the first floor, and I have set about looking for a rocking chair where Baby and I can sit and pass the mornings looking out over the Bali Sea.

Moving to Denpasar: All Good Things Come to an End (And New Ones Wait on the Horizon)

Well, the time finally arrived when Rebecca no longer needed me in Denpasar, and it was time to move back to Singaraja. A move not without regrets despite the need for me to be back in Singaraja with my youngest children. Denpasar has been a source of unending interest for me. But, I learned a few lessons there that I plan on building upon in Singaraja. It’s easy enough living on a small island to forgot the diversity that abounds here and the mysteries that lurk behind each house and within each storefront.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALife, fate, the winds of change, the turning of time bring us to the realization that constancy is one of those closely-held, but often mistaken, certainties of life. Just when we think we have glimpsed closely enough the patterns of our lives so that we can make the grand plans of living that will comfort and guide us through an ever-changing (and often threatening world), we find that the cosmic trickster is once again enjoying a little fun at our expense. Best to enjoy the pranks and have a laugh at ourselves.

So, back in Singaraja with a few new visions, some inchoate plans and a new sense of energy as I gaze deep back into the horizon over the Bali Sea. Time for shifting a few gears, cleaning out some virtual closets, and creating some new plans.

There is a tide in the affairs of men

Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;

Omitted, all the voyage of their life

Is bound in shallows and in miseries.

On such a full sea are we now afloat;

And we must take the current when it serves,

Or lose our ventures.
Act 4, Scene 3

Stan The Man, A Boyhood Hero Has Left

As a boy growing up in the Midwest in the 1950s, I was a pretty normal kid who loved sports, listened to his mom and got into the usual Leave It To Beaver kind of trouble. My boyhood heroes were baseball players like most of my friends. I was one of those kids who couldn’t get enough of baseball, I played it everyday during the warm months; sometimes team games of hardball or softball, sometimes fastpitching against the outside wall of the locker room at Irving Elementary School with one of my buddies, sometimes whiffleball games in the alley behind our apartment with kids from the street. I had a chance to see some of the legendary players as they came through town to play the Cubs or the White Sox: Mickey Mantle, Ted Williams, Willie Mays, Hank Aaron, Yogi Berra, Ernie Banks. But of all the greats that I saw my favorite player was always Stan “The Man” Musial.

130120012501-stan-musial-getty2-single-image-cutHe was the star for my favorite team, the St. Louis Cardinals, and he was my father’s favorite player so it made sense for a kid living in the fantasy fifties to idolize Stan. He had the crouched over batting stance that I copied when I batted left-handed. As the ball reached the plate he’d unwind like a coiled spring and spray the ball to left, center or right. He could hit everywhere. By the time that I began following Stan’s career in 1957, his greatest days, like the 1948 season when he led the National League in just about every offensive category (runs scored, hits, doubles, triples, rbi, slugging percentage, average, OBP, OBP+, TB), were past but he won the last of his seven batting titles that year hitting .351 as a 36 year old. I suffered through the three years that he below .300 and then was thrilled when he hit .330 as a 41 year old. His last year was another tough one hitting only .255 and he knew then that it was time to hang up the spikes.

Stan played 22 years for the Cardinals and played in 24 All Star games. When he retired he held 17 Major League records, 29 National League records and nine All-Star game records. 50 years after he retired, he still holds a number of records including the most home runs in a double header. Many baseball figures see him as the most underrated Hall of Fame player.

Like many of Stan’s fans, I have my favorite Stan The Man story. I was a young boy, maybe nine or ten, and I went to watch the Cards win a double header against their traditional rivals the Cubs. After the game, my father and I headed down to the visitor’s locker room and waited for the players to come so that I could get a few autographs. Stan came out in the middle of a crowd of players and dozens of young boys with their fathers trailing behind them rushed over to ask Stan for an autograph. He begged off until after he finished making a call in the phone booth outside the locker room. We all waited patiently until he finished. He came out and signed a dozen or so autographs and apologized to the rest of us and said that he needed to go. As he turned to leave, my father shouted out, “Stan how about one more for my boy?” Stan took a look at me, probably standing there with a goofy hero-worshipping grin, said, “OK, just one more for your boy.” He took the scorecard from my father’s hand, signed it and returned it with one of those trademarked Musial grins.

As the great Willie Mays said about Stan, “I never heard anybody say a bad word about him — ever.”

Joe Garagiola’s famous quote summed up Stan’s baseball ability, “He could have hit .300 with a fountain pen.”

And President Barrack Obama said of Stan when he was presented the Presidential Medal of Freedom, “Stan remains, to this day, an icon, untarnished; a beloved pillar of the community; a gentlemen you’d want your kids to emulate.”

RIP Stan, a great ballplayer and a true gentlemen.

Moving to Denpasar: Traveling Between Two Cities

I’m not sure how long Rebecca and I have been living in Denpasar, but it must be close to two months. It seems like we’ve been here for a long time now that we have a routine that works well. And while Rebecca’s life these days is Denpasar-focused as it revolves mainly around school; I, on the other hand, still have responsibilities in Singaraja even though I live here in Denpasar on a full-time basis. There are bills to be paid for the house in Singaraja, regular checks on how Sam and Meredith are doing in school and reports from my wife on how the house is standing up to this year’s rainy season, which has finally arrived.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAThe other day when checking my passport, I started going through all the other documents that foreigners need when they live in Indonesia, and I discovered that I had let my driver’s licenses expire. I enjoy having both an automobile license and a motorcycle license, because when I get stopped in one of the regular police road checks, I always have everything in order and can have a pleasant conversation with the guys once they see that I’m legal (amazing how many foreigners drive here without licenses).

Being somewhat obsessive about certain things, I suspiciously eyed the local traffic cops later that day when I made a grocery run. Paranoid visions running rampant that they could tell that I was driving on an expired license. My peace of mind demanded immediate action so I called my wife and asked her to get a letter from our local government office in Singaraja certifying that I was an upstanding foreign resident who lived in Kampung Bugis, Singaraja. (Renewing my license here would require new documents from new offices, which would require explanations, payments, more documents and on and on. Easier to head back to Singaraja and renew my license there.)

The most direct route from Denpasar to Singaraja is up through the center of the island past the old kingdom of Mengwi, up through Baturiti and the tourist area of Bedugal and then the long, winding road down the mountains to Singaraja. This has long been my least favorite road trip in Bali: it’s often slow because trucks and the massive oversized tourist buses use this road to get from the south of Bali to the north and then beyond to Java. Sometimes there are twenty or thirty cars lined up beyond a truck or bus, desperately trying to find an opening in the road where they can pass and return to normal breakneck speed. And with the cars and trucks and buses, there will be dozens of motorcycles jockeying back and forth trying to pass on blind curves in order to get home more quickly, if not more safely.

The countryside that this road runs through is as fine as any in Bali with views of rice paddies, coconut groves, traditional Balinese walled compounds and village life as lived alongside one of Bali’s major roads. For some reason it’s rarely mentioned by tourists or expats. Unfortunately, in the quest to get home quickly, these landscapes and glimpses of Balinese life are often only a blur. And with the rainy season, there’s the distinct possibility of having to do all of this maddening driving while trying to peer through rain-spotted glasses.

My little discovery has been to leave early in the morning just after dawn; while it’s something not scientifically proven, the rains seem to fall most steadily from mid-afternoon on through the evening. On the few trips that I’ve made back to Singaraja, indeed the mornings have been dry and the afternoons wet.

Now that Christmas and the New Year holidays have passed, it’s the off-season here. Just a few weeks ago, the road home was filled with the massive tourist buses carrying loads of exhausted, over-stimulated tourists from one point of interest to another. On my license trip I passed exactly two buses. Seems like we are back to a nice quiet few months.

And my license? The police were friendly and helpful as usual. I was in and out within an hour with two new licenses good for another year of traveling the beautiful if hectic roads of Bali.